Top 10 Ways to Enhance Your Relationship
1)Give up being “right” – When we let go of the need to be right we create an opportunity to be happy. Be generous with your partner and give up dwelling on or pointing out when they make a mistake; particularly when dealing with insignificant issues.
2)Communicate your expectations – Many of us expect our significant other to mind read. Even though it may appear obvious to you - communicate your expectations and needs with clarity to avoid misinterpretation. This is by far the easiest single action to eliminate or limit unnecessary disagreements.
3)Acknowledge your partner- Re-presence yourself to all the characteristics you were originally drawn to in your mate. Focus on what you adore about them and give up the expectation that they should be infallible, or another way.
4)Emotional balance- We have a propensity to direct our frustration about ourselves and life toward our mate. Be responsible for all actions that are not consistent with creating an extraordinary partnership. Identify any patterns that you bring to the relationship that dis-empower it. Use this as an opportunity to develop yourself.
5)Keep your power – If your partner is in an unfavorable mood it can be tempting to follow suit and then blame them for initiating the tone for the day. Our life is made up of choices. Everyday we are given opportunities to forgive over holding a grudge, to laugh over crying. Choose powerfully to respond to people over reacting – this alone is guaranteed to improve the quality of life you experience.
6)Forgive - Sadly, it’s in our closest relationships we tend to be the least forgiving. Understand that your mate has good intentions and like you and me – we are still learning how to manage people, life and circumstances effectively. Let the little things go and use the larger issues to evaluate the direction of the relationship. Identify what you have both learned and move forward powerfully.
7)Be thoughtful and creative- We all love to be appreciated. What would really make him smile or melt her heart? A trail of roses leading to the breakfast table, tickets to the game and a romantic picnic, back massage with candles and a little note in the computer bag reading “thinking of you”. Have fun with it!
8)Expect the best- Our thoughts have energy and have the power to influence experiences. According to quantum physics when we expect negative results and behavior we create an invisible field that can attract exactly that. Have your thoughts and expectations aligned with the outcome you desire.
9)Keep your word – Be someone that can be counted on to do what they say. Be on time, call when you say you will. Our language creates our reality and we train people to listen to us as reliable or not. If you make a mistake acknowledge it and re- commit.
10)Pursue your passions- A key to a fulfilling life and also a very compelling, charismatic quality, to all people is passion. Take up painting, theatre, or hang gliding; you could create a Future Millionaire’s Club, a travel group, run for office, learn Spanish or have a Karaoke party! When you surround yourself with people and things that are inspiring you improve your self-concept and all your relationships are magically enhanced!
